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Month: December 2023

Cultivating Peace

Cultivating PeacCultivating peace in our lives is within our control. We can’t change other people, but we can always change our own attitudes, thoughts and how we behave.

I may have mentioned before that when my sister died I went to her body and said “I’m sorry”, “I forgive you” and “I love you” again and again. This turns out to be very similar to a practice that used in Hawaii called Ho’oponopono.

When there is any lack of peace the person or people involved consider their share of the blame. Then they say the 4 phrases: “I love you”, “I’m sorry” “Will you forgive me?” And “Thank you”.

You can journal on these phrases and see what you come up with. I have developed an exercise where I write “I forgive”, “I am sorry”, “I forgive myself”, “I’m grateful for” and “I commit in love to.” It is as important to forgive ourselves as it is to forgive others and receive forgiveness.

Here is an example:

I forgive:

  • My father
  • The boys who hit me at school
  • My boyfriends
  • My husband
  • Certain men at church

I’m sorry for not giving enough love to:

  • My parents
  • My sisters
  • My friends
  • My husband
  • My children

I forgive myself for:

  • Having a negativity bias
  • Succumbing to fear and depression
  • Not trying hard enough
  • Not loving myself enough
  • Not respecting myself enough

I’m grateful for:

  • The difference exercise makes
  • The courses I’ve done
  • The coaching I’ve received
  • People’s support on Facebook
  • People being generally good.

I commit in love to:

  • Being loving in all relationships
  • Reaching out to people to affirm and encourage them
  • Believing in the positivity of people
  • Believing that I am loved
  • Trusting in the providence of God.

I invite you to try this exercise yourself and do let me know how it goes. Another great exercise you could do is my Self love journaling exercise. 

If you’d like any support with cultivating peace in your life let’s have a call.

Taking Back your Power

Taking back your power is healing.

Taking back your power

On Saturday I sent a message to a woman who I used to be friends with at Prep School in the UK. She grew up in the Cayman Islands, so she was actually the reason I had heard of them as a wonderful and positive place to live. A mutual friend had told me she didn’t remember me, so I had not bothered to contact her in the 22 years I’ve lived here. Limiting beliefs can hold us back in so many ways!

She had actually been in the year below me at school. So in theory we would not have been friends. The reason I was friends with her was because the boys in my class used to hit me. As a result the girls in my class were too scared to be friends with me. She and another friend in her class were like a safe haven for me.

As soon as I sent the message I started to cry, which was a surprise. When I thought about why, I understood that they were healing tears. It’s all about putting things right and taking back my power. Although I’ve forgiven those boys long ago, the years of daily kicks and insults had affected me deeply. Because of my limiting beliefs, my relationships and career were severely impaired.

But you and I know that NOW is the time to embrace change and positive beliefs.

Taking Back Your Power through Setting Goals

While on the theme of taking back my power, this past Sunday was a good one for that. I ran the Cayman Half Marathon for the first time. I have not been a regular runner until recently. It was something I only thought of in September. But it turned out that it was all about taking back my power. Setting that goal and consistently working towards it has helped build my confidence and shown me I have so much more potential.

Cayman is completely flat so that made it achievable as a beginner. One of the other things that made a difference is the playlist I’ve been running to. Obviously, having a good beat certainly helps. But what I’m amazed at is how many songs there are that empower women. Where have I been? For the last 30 years, I’ve been too busy bringing up 4 children and working on my self development to notice much of what was happening in the music world.

If any of this resonates with you and you’d like any support taking back your power, book yourself a free coaching call.

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