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Month: December 2022

How Survive the Holidays in Peace

If you would like to know how to survive the holidays in peace, you’ve come to the right place!

Every year we start off with good intentions about the holidays, but we seem to get stressed in spite of them. Whether it’s a guest who stays longer than we had invited them for, or rivalry in the kitchen, there is always something!

In our house, there are so many great cooks who want to be in charge! I suppose that’s the small price I pay for having taught all 4 of my children to be excellent cooks. Add to that the fact that some of us eat meat and some of us are vegetarian and it can get quite busy!

I know that our family is not the only one that has these stresses around the holidays. In some families there are ongoing resentments for years or even decades, that mean that members only see each other once a year. Nobody wants to talk about the elephant in the room. But they can all sense its presence. And that’s way too much pressure for everyone to get along.

What usually happens in your family? Can you get through the season without a single argument? Or without someone getting too stressed? I hope so, but I fear that in many families the answer is no.

That’s why this year I have made a crib sheet called “10 Steps to Survive the Holidays in Peace.” If you would like me to send it to you, drop a line in the comments.

And if you would like to find out more about coaching with me contact me here.

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Never Give in!

Never Give in!

“Never give in — never, never, never, never, in nothing great or small, large or petty.”  These are the famous words of Sir Winston Churchill in a speech he made at Harrow School in 1941. He continued, “Never give in except to convictions of honour and good sense. Never yield to force; never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy.”

Sometimes when I watch videos like this, or go to see a live piano performance, I think about giving in to my inner hyper-achiever. That’s the voice that tells me if I can’t perform at that level, there is no point even trying. But that’s simply not true.

The truth is I can actually play Rondo a Cappriccio. The difference is that when I play it, it sounds much more like a meditative lullaby instead of a ‘Rage over a Lost Penny.’

I did record a video of myself playing part of the piece, but perhaps luckily for you, my Air Drop is not working today. My intention had been to show the impact of practising the same line 50 times. The “before” video is 42 seconds long and the “after” recording is 22 seconds. So I managed to shave off 20 seconds, which was a great achievement for me! But to put this into perspective, in the recording I am sending you, the section only takes around 7 seconds!!

Even professional level performers started with zero knowledge of music and no inherent skills at the piano. They had to learn from scratch, like we all do at everything. They put in the hours of practice every day for years to get to where they wanted to get to. But we don’t have to be the best in order to enjoy doing something. Or in order for others to appreciate our talents.

In fact, recently we went to a concert where a lady played all 24 Etudes by Liszt. She is apparently the only person in the world currently playing all of them in one concert. That’s certainly very impressive! However, it was so far above everyone’s heads that we couldn’t enjoy it. Half the audience left. I would probably have left too if my husband and I had not been invited by the sponsors. And if I had not by chance met the performer in the restroom. I felt sorry for her that people were leaving when she had worked so hard for many years to achieve that level of playing.

So when our saboteurs attack us with doubts such as “you’re not good enough”, or “you should not even bother trying” we can ignore them. Although they are trying to protect us from pain, they are working as our enemy. Let’s agree to never give in to their negativity, because if a thing is worth doing, it is worth doing for the joy of it.

If you would like any help with persistence, let’s get on a call. You can book yourself an appointment here.






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